The other day I was chatting with one of my friends who happened to read my posts and she said that I am an inspiring person. May be I should have thanked her for the compliment but I rather went cold. Man! I was scared. Its scary when someone sets up high expectations. Its good if by chance I inspire someone and they get to learn something good from me. But I can't make that a habit as I am no super woman. I made mistakes like everyone else and have learnt from them. (I still make mistakes.)
I was leading my life like most of you, trying to impress everyone possible, compromising and adjusting every now and then. And eventually all my interests were dumped deep into oblivion. And the worst part was that I never regretted it because thats how I was trained. Thats how I felt every woman did. Because I saw my mom doing the same. But things changed after I had my baby. My cute bundle of joy. He would cuddle with me, search for me, prod me with his tiny fingers and basically look forward for me. And thats a great thing. When someone so lovely is looking upto you for directions, for help in life and trying to learn from you and imitate you, you are bound to become a lot more responsible. It cleared my head off the mist and one thing was clear to me. I can't go on with life like this. Our children don't learn what we teach but they learn from what we do. They tend to follow us and I did not want him to think that a woman is deemed to make sacrifices. I want him to accept the fact that a woman is free to make her own choices without the fear of being judged by every Tom, Dick and Harry.
I knew that I should start being myself but had no clue on where to start from. One day while clearing data from my pen drive, I came across a New Folder (I had blogged about it earlier) and it brought a realisation in me. And my blogging is nothing but a child of that realization. I have learnt that I have to take time for my interests and at the same time not to be self centered. Life is all about choices and its for us to decide what choices work the best for each one of us. I would like to quote Dumbledore here, "It is your choices rather than your capabilities that decide what you are." It is crucial for everyone of us to make the right choices in life. As a human you may fail but you can't fail as a parent.
I am not best at managing time. I have many draft stories, articles and incidents in my brain that haven't made it to the blog.And for every post that made to the blog, I had to cut down some other task. All I am doing today could not be done without my husband's support. I am not an independent woman. I am not self dependent either. I depend a lot on my parents, extended family and husband for many of my needs. I derive my happiness from them. This last para I would have as a record that would help me remain humble and rooted to the ground. Also if someone is inspired by my blogs, they are most welcome, as long as they don't blast or maul some anti feminist and credit me for having inspired them. You see, I can't afford to get arrested as my son needs me and even worse, my husband will have a tough time finding another wife. LOL.
Yup! I'll call it a day. Its 1:27 AM and I have to catch some sleep before starting another day. Take care and celebrate life the right way.
I was leading my life like most of you, trying to impress everyone possible, compromising and adjusting every now and then. And eventually all my interests were dumped deep into oblivion. And the worst part was that I never regretted it because thats how I was trained. Thats how I felt every woman did. Because I saw my mom doing the same. But things changed after I had my baby. My cute bundle of joy. He would cuddle with me, search for me, prod me with his tiny fingers and basically look forward for me. And thats a great thing. When someone so lovely is looking upto you for directions, for help in life and trying to learn from you and imitate you, you are bound to become a lot more responsible. It cleared my head off the mist and one thing was clear to me. I can't go on with life like this. Our children don't learn what we teach but they learn from what we do. They tend to follow us and I did not want him to think that a woman is deemed to make sacrifices. I want him to accept the fact that a woman is free to make her own choices without the fear of being judged by every Tom, Dick and Harry.
I knew that I should start being myself but had no clue on where to start from. One day while clearing data from my pen drive, I came across a New Folder (I had blogged about it earlier) and it brought a realisation in me. And my blogging is nothing but a child of that realization. I have learnt that I have to take time for my interests and at the same time not to be self centered. Life is all about choices and its for us to decide what choices work the best for each one of us. I would like to quote Dumbledore here, "It is your choices rather than your capabilities that decide what you are." It is crucial for everyone of us to make the right choices in life. As a human you may fail but you can't fail as a parent.
I am not best at managing time. I have many draft stories, articles and incidents in my brain that haven't made it to the blog.And for every post that made to the blog, I had to cut down some other task. All I am doing today could not be done without my husband's support. I am not an independent woman. I am not self dependent either. I depend a lot on my parents, extended family and husband for many of my needs. I derive my happiness from them. This last para I would have as a record that would help me remain humble and rooted to the ground. Also if someone is inspired by my blogs, they are most welcome, as long as they don't blast or maul some anti feminist and credit me for having inspired them. You see, I can't afford to get arrested as my son needs me and even worse, my husband will have a tough time finding another wife. LOL.
Yup! I'll call it a day. Its 1:27 AM and I have to catch some sleep before starting another day. Take care and celebrate life the right way.
