The side effect

He saw her from the other end of the room. Her hair mangled and messy, jumping her non patterned jumps, dancing without rhythm, singing without tune and giggling unusually loud. He let out a sigh. He knew that she couldn't be normal again. Never again. He could never get his wife back like the good old days.

Life changes after marriage. It was true and his life did change post marriage.It was a welcome change. But now, five years down the line he was on the verge of losing his wife. His heart ached to see her like this. He was tired of her insane behavior. He just hoped she could get back to her normal self. But he knew that it was impossible now. What she was facing now is a side effect which could not be undone.

She came running towards him and paused to take a breath. Her insanely happy eyes smiled at him. "Care for some dinner?"  she asked. He nodded in reply, not taking his eyes off her, noticing the wiry strands of hairs sticking on her sweaty forehead and back of her neck. "Momma! No. No." cried her son clinging to her leg and said "Jump. Jump and Sing" Untangling him from her leg, she went to the kitchen, sending a flying kiss in his direction and assuring to return in two minutes. Not bothering to wipe the sweat of her brow, she let it trickle down onto her shirt while serving dinner to her husband.

Not eating together was yet another side effect of parenthood he thought. He silently ate his dinner while the momma and sonny duo continued their JUMP JUMP and SING SING game. He sighed silently and thanked his stars that in this mad mad world, he atleast got his food on time. It was the only sign that he was not yet forgotten. And then came his son running towards him and landed face down onto his dinner. "Yet another side effect" he sighed.

SAHM me

FYI - SAHM stands for Stay At Home Mom. Its been a quarter since it became my identity. I quickly jot down the changes I see in my life.

In the beginning, I was pretty scared and started looking for some crazy work from home jobs. But quickly enough discarded the thought. I found that as a working mother I was multi tasking my head off and now I find it difficult to concentrate on single task at a time. So I planned to meditate a bit daily. Which is obviously not going as per plan. But eventually I got used to single tasking or lets say not multi tasking. 

We are facing small problems like managing finances with single salary and by end of every month we have pulled it safe so far. There is one major problem I am facing due to lack of office laptop. Because the MS office subscription on my personal laptop has expired. And if you find any typo or grammatical errors on my blog then its Microsoft to be blamed. Because, how the hell can they not give me unlimited access to MS Word after purchasing a Windows 10 laptop? 

Talking of advantages, I am leading my life at a much much slower pace when compared to the past 8  years. On few days I don't get to see my dark circles. I have a tidier and better organized home than before. The best of all is getting to see my child grow every second right in front of my eyes. Even better than the previous one is that I get to watch more movies with  my husband. And I bet he can't ask for anything more. Okay, here's a better one, he gets freshly cooked food served hot, thrice a day.

Life has been such a roller coaster ride so far. Thanks to my husband for being there and supporting my decision of quitting the rat race that I was part of. Few of my relatives who were not happy with me working and leaving my baby with his grandparents, are now pitying me and asking why I quit? Many of my friends told me that it was a very bold decision to quit my career and now I understand why they called it "BOLD". Its one such experience which is hard to forget. Kudos to my son who keeps me going. And thanks to my husband because if I don't thank him very often from now on, there is a risk of cutting my pocket money. :P

Kitchen set

I bought a kitchen set for my son much to the dismay of my neighbor who is a mother of a 3 yr old girl. This is the one which comes with stove, burners, oven, chimney hub, tap and sink, frying pans, cups and saucers and cutlery. Yes. Its that exhaustive. And my neighbor couldn't get the logic behind me getting it for my son when her daughter doesn't have such exhaustive set of the so called girlie toy. My husband laughed when I got the pink color kitchen set. Few thought I was wasting money buying such irrelavant toys for my son. But it was an immediate hit with him. As soon as I assembled it, he gave me a cup of tea from his set and washed his hands and face from the tap provided at the sink. Needless to say, I was on cloud nine.

I don't know if I qualify being called a "Breaking the stereotypes" mom. But, I saw that my son almost, always mimicked me when he saw me cook. His favorite play toys were my frying pans and cookers. He has a bat and ball. In fact lots of balls of various sizes and colors. But the fancy he takes for my kitchen utensils is nowhere in comparison to them. So I got him this toy set, respecting his interests. I bought it hoping to put an end to the clinging and clanging noises he made with my steel utensils. The neighbors were complaining you know. They thought it was my way of venting out on my husband. OUTRAGEOUS.

Few of my acquaintances laughed at it (The kitchen set I mean. Not the venting out part). Few were of the opinion that he would become a famous chef in future. Few said that I was lucky and in few years I would have a helping hand at kitchen. And here is what I think. I will be happy if my son learns to cook because thats one basic need of life. Every person with the ability to cook doesn't have to be a chef. About the helping hand part, I must agree that I am looking forward to it. To make my point clearer, let me summarize my thoughts. "I got the kitchen set for my son because I would love him to pursue his interests. And to teach him that there is no such thing called a boy's job or a girl's job. Times have changed and its all a matter of our choices."

On a very recent update, he has taken fancy for my compact and lipstick. Do you think I should give them to him and let him paint himself? No... No...Don't go away. Believe me, I promise to listen to you this time.