Was busy and couldnt do this post sooner. But I wanted it to make to the August post so doing this in a last minute rush.
Lets talk about this pic that was shared on FB. Firstly, a big salute to all those women who maintain a balance between culture and modernity. But there's no harm if a lady cant manage to do it. I never saw anyone raising a brow when a man cant drape a dhoti or manage traditional attire. Seriously! most of them prefer to wear jeans to the temples. I dont have a problem with that and neither do i have a problem when a woman doesnt wear a saree or traditional attire to the temple.
Talking about feminism, its not about defying culture but it is about giving women the freedom to make their choices and hold on to their decisions. Feminism also doesn't mean that women and men can do similar tasks with same dexterity because they were born to be different. It is for us to respect each others differences and shortcomings. No. It doesnt qualify women for reservation. There is a huge list of Dos and Dont's for women. In the name of tradition, the women face lots of restrictions. Restrictions, that most of the times come in the way of their dreams, goals, aims and aspirations. Culture and traditions are man made and keep changing with time. The society has curtailed the Sati system. It has accepted that a woman need not burn herself in her husband's pyre. Then how difficult is it to accept that a woman needs to live the life she dreams of? why don't we accept that she need not kill her dreams and ambitions for the unknown prince charming or the almost extinct knight in the shining armor?
The pic of P V Sindhu holding a Bonam and going to temple in traditional attire is being shared on FB trying to tell every other woman to learn something from her. How about sharing Sachin Tendulkar going on an exotic vacation with his family? Comparision doesnt go well with men right? So does it with women as well. Next we would say Sakshi Malik can lift twice her body weight, every other woman should also try and do it. No Sir! it doesnt work that way.
I Wouldn't mind wearing a pallu over my head or making hell lot of sacrifices for everyone around me until i lose my identity if it was not for my son. I feel that he deserves to know the real me. I want to make the path of the woman of his life less difficult by not setting wrong or impractical expectations for her.
I know i Know these days my blogs are not very interesting atleast to most of my friends. But i promise i will post a story next. Thanks for hanging on
Talking about feminism, its not about defying culture but it is about giving women the freedom to make their choices and hold on to their decisions. Feminism also doesn't mean that women and men can do similar tasks with same dexterity because they were born to be different. It is for us to respect each others differences and shortcomings. No. It doesnt qualify women for reservation. There is a huge list of Dos and Dont's for women. In the name of tradition, the women face lots of restrictions. Restrictions, that most of the times come in the way of their dreams, goals, aims and aspirations. Culture and traditions are man made and keep changing with time. The society has curtailed the Sati system. It has accepted that a woman need not burn herself in her husband's pyre. Then how difficult is it to accept that a woman needs to live the life she dreams of? why don't we accept that she need not kill her dreams and ambitions for the unknown prince charming or the almost extinct knight in the shining armor?
The pic of P V Sindhu holding a Bonam and going to temple in traditional attire is being shared on FB trying to tell every other woman to learn something from her. How about sharing Sachin Tendulkar going on an exotic vacation with his family? Comparision doesnt go well with men right? So does it with women as well. Next we would say Sakshi Malik can lift twice her body weight, every other woman should also try and do it. No Sir! it doesnt work that way.
I Wouldn't mind wearing a pallu over my head or making hell lot of sacrifices for everyone around me until i lose my identity if it was not for my son. I feel that he deserves to know the real me. I want to make the path of the woman of his life less difficult by not setting wrong or impractical expectations for her.
I know i Know these days my blogs are not very interesting atleast to most of my friends. But i promise i will post a story next. Thanks for hanging on
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